How to Set Healthy Boundaries

A lot of people have really bad boundaries these days

Over the years, one of the things I’ve noticed is that a lot of people have really poor boundaries. They don’t actually think about the idea of boundaries as they go about their lives and they don’t realize how important it is to have healthy ones.


Therapists who socialize with their clients are violating their boundaries

In general, once you are seeing a therapist, they should never socialize with you or do anything with you that is not part of the therapy. The power dynamic is so one-sided.


Social media promotes bad boundaries

In our new normal, social media supports the blurring of boundaries. People overshare deeply personal information online with no thought to the consequences of this behaviour. This encourages others to do the same, so that more and more people are ignoring their own and each other’s boundaries.


Healthy boundaries empower us to have healthy relationships

We need to re-learn healthy boundaries so that we can have healthy personal and professional relationships. It’s not that complicated to do so but it takes some conscious intention.

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Boundary violations in childhood can be healed

Knowing that your boundaries are yours to protect, you can begin making different choices as an adult. You can see that you don’t need to reveal intimate details about yourself to people until and unless you know them and trust them well.


Self-compassion is necessary in building better boundaries

It can also be upsetting to realize that you’ve been neglecting your own boundaries. It’s important to understand the reasons for this and to forgive yourself for it.



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Marcia Sirota

Marcia Sirota


Writer, speaker, MD, and author of the Short & Sweet Guides to Life book series